hey y'all, you can read and comment if you want im just kinda throwin this out there so that i can analyze myself . so i've been goin out with this girl for about a year and a half, we communicate real good, pretty good sex, she knows me pretty well and she's totally drop dead gorgeous. she's in her final year of university and i've been out of uni for like 9 months or so. im moving away pretty soon, so we wont be together for at least a few months... we've had that situation before though when she went on exchange so its not a big deal. however my life has been feelin really boring lately. this girl doesnt like to party or anything, has never drank or smoked (im a pot smoker myself and used to party and drink with friends occasionally). so while ive been with her i gave up smoking (i know right), at least for like over a year... but now im smoking again. however i have not been out partying/to the bar with buddies like, since i started going out with her. so my life has felt pretty pedestrian, just work a bit from home, play games, occasionally see a friend, see her on weekends. not bad but just lately ive been feeling sorta... weird, confused, messed up inside. i just feel sorta like im sucked into this hole around this girl, a type of lifestyle and future that i havent planned for myself but that she sort of plans. i am a real worrywart so i totally overestimate shit and get ahead of myself. im starting to get that thing where whenever im in a bad mood, i start thinkin about the relationship and about how if it was over i was have a chance to bloom again. i have kind of lost touch with my spirituality and my friends... it's sad! but im moving soon and im not sure whats going to happen then. i dont want to let my feelings about her stop me from making friends/having fun, but i do obviously care about her and want her to be happy. i just want to do all the shit i want to do and still be a good boyfriend. i think i can do that, but its stressful sometimes because i know living with her would be FKIN hard, cause of the no-drink no-smoke BS. so yeah, i like this girl but im feelin pretty off about the relationship. im just 22 and about to move to a fairly big city by myself and i feel sorta bored with life TBH... i feel lately that i haven't had many or any new experiences... and im sorta blaming it on the relationship. i think probably i should step up and take responsibility for it... hell its my life.. i dont NEED her if she doesnt agree.
Break it off. You're not happy. Maybe don't and just tell her you need some space to figure yourself out. I too, well I was never a heavy drinker/smoker stopped partying it up because well it's not that my boyfriend requested it, but I felt sort of uncomfortable doing that in his presence. I hardly ever see my friends, One because I'm a full time student and work part-time during the week and then weekends I see him, but I try to stay connected and sometimes we'll plan something with our friends. I'm totally fine not drinking and shit (saves me loads of money) so i feel where you're coming from.
just depends on what is more important to you you decide, and if you make the wrong one you'll regret it always think it through
yeah i know i sometimes have feelings like i should end it but you know how shitty it seems. like i say i am moving away soon tho so i think i want to see how things go with the distance before i really decide... thanks for the other replies, guys!
i dont like to make these kind of decisions anymore. i dont believe in regretting always, i dont think it really happens to healthy people. no matter how bad things get there is an uprise, and shit just happens to people, and if you regret you are just digging yourself a giant hole.
