Don't know why I'm starting this thread, I'm OK with never being in love. But sometimes I think that something may be wrong with me, because it seems everyone else I've ever known has been in love, gotten married, had kids, etc. Am I the only one? I've never known total closeness/devotion, so I guess you can't miss something you've never known. I'm not against it by any means, and sometimes wish I could feel that way. I'm a pretty open minded person, and have some hippie-like ideals, but loving someone else just never happened. And I'm not even sure it's even possible for me. Thoughts?
have you been in relationships? i think there's a pretty big difference between having had multiple relationships with people but never being in love with them, and just being alone forever so the opportunity for love never even came up.
I should have prefaced it by saying how many "girlfriends" I've had. Of course I have, other than never being in love, I'm a regular red-blooded american boy. I've probably had 8 what people would call "girlfriends". Some of them lasted a couple years. But I've slept with at least 70 and always put more emphasis on #'s. Like I said before, I'm OK with it, but I'm starting to realize I may be somewhat unique in a sense. But I'm getting older and no longer play games to get women in bed, and maybe it would be nice to settle down for a change. But I can't force myself to love someone, and to be honest, the thought still kind of puts me off.
There are women out there who would like a relationship and who also don't care to be "in love". It's a good age to be honest and hang out with someone without the head games.
Maybe I'm just confused as to what true love is. But anyway, I figure it probably starts with loving and caring about myself and then anything can happen. I'm just a selfish prick I guess. :juggle:
I think the only difference between those and love is that you didn't buy them a home and every last one of their meals and shoe-shopping sprees; you could still go out with your buddies when they nagged you to death; and you didn't have a $20,000-dollar wedding and a ridiculous ring on your finger mandated by the Abrahamic patriarchs a couple of millenia ago.
I don't know. It just sounds like you don't want to let anyone in, to know the real you -- the depths of your heart and emotions -- all of your weaknesses and faults. You have to be vulnerable to truly fall in love and be loved. It's a risk. But falling in love feels so good.
Dear Cameltoeover: Love is different for everyone, I believe someday you may find real love. I am married and I love my husband and I love a lot of things. Maybe I use the word too lightly. God is love. If you want love you have to step out and meet and care and love someone. I am definitely not an expert in matters of the heart. I believe love is worth trying for in a relationship though. Love someone today and maybe you will be surprised with all the love you receive and the blessings. God loves you and love is good. Peace to you... Nanette T.
