Oke. Changed the post. Looked kinda disturbing. But the story is that im hopelossly in love with a girl and she has a boyfriend. And she is going away to another place. And I Don't like it. But it is what it is.
It hurts even more when you constantly wonder if she's sleeping with him.. altough that doesn't seem to hurt other guys as much as me! So, did you make your feelings known? and try and steel her. What actually 'happened' by the way?
She has a boyfriend She is moving away The OP is in love with her. In what order did the awareness of these things happen? Is it "I fell in love with her and when I asked her out, I found out that she has a boyfriend, etc." Or "I knew she had a boyfriend, but fell in love with her even though I knew it was doomed." Aside from using the word "love" to describe feeling held for someone that you don't know deeply. Its a lot easier "loving" a woman who is unobtainable, there's no risk of rejection or disappointment. If she has a boyfriend before you become infatuated with her, its not your fault that she already chose him over you. If you keep your interest secret, its no reflection on you that she chose college over you. Waiting for Cupid's arrow to strike is less threatening than than opening up to someone and learning about each other. (Stupid Cupid's aim is a more palatable reason for a failed relationship than a personality mismatch or (horrors) even imperfections in ones own personality) On the other hand, enduring the slings and misplaced arrows of outragous Cupid isn't going to get you as far as taking risks and learning about one's self and others.
i generally think "just go have sex with someone" is pretty ridiculous advice, as though you just have to go and ask for it and it will be granted. but the guy's in amsterdam, he really does just have to ask for it with a handful of cash.
Sorry to hear that...Love at times sucks, I know ....im dealing with it myself everyday and dont know if it will last or not. Good luck!
I knew that she has a boyfriend and that she is moving away. But still. Love is cruel. Sex does not help. I need love. I listen alot to Cris Isaak at the moment. Its terrible. But I get over it. Im sure. Someday I will meet that one girl that will rock my world for forever. Im atleast calming down a little bit now. Im accepting the reality.
How long have you known this girl for? Have you two been close as friends? I've fallen in love with some of my friends in the past, and while nothing came out of it in the end, I'm happy to say I'm still friends with them. So, I'm sure you'll be able to get over your situation sooner or later as well.
you know, i've noticed a lot of males are sort of waiting for that girl who will make their dreams come true. assuming that the object of your affection will return your affections, and that she will indeed be as perfect and wonderful as you've imagined her. i've got a reality check for you: she's imperfect, and she isn't going to be able to get both of your lives on the right track. your life being on the right track is an attractable thing. you need to motivate yourself to be a better person, not wait until you find someone you might consider changing for. although, in the same concept, i'm not saying you need to change, but you need to improve upon your flaws. such as your complex for waning for the unattainable. or assuming that some other power will fix your life.
