I dont want this to sound like any agony aunt bullshit or emo (the thought chills me), and i realise im only 15. Recently the girl i've been into that i was going to ask out has started going out with one of my best friends and i have been feeling more depressed. It's really awkward and it hurts. the thing was i thought she was perfect (still do) and i thought she seemed to take an interest in me. The worst part is my friend who doesn't know obliviously tells me how far they've gone which makes me worse. they had only met 2 weeks before on MSN as well, the whole thing generally reflects my luck. I see her quite often as well and we are friendly and get on very well and i enjoy myself wh en with her and then feel like shit afterwards, im still just as good a m8 with my friend as before. They both seem happy but it doesnt make me feel any better. i really dont want to sound emo or fit the high school stereotype i just some advice on what to do. cheers
Chances are they won't last, your best bet if you want to get with her is to totally play the friend card. Be both of their friends and at least pretend to be happy for them. When it all goes wrong, be there for her, a shoulder to cry on. She'll be with you in no time. Meanwhile, find someone else to fixate on. It is the best thing to get over something like this. Or at the very least find some other friends to hang out with for a while so it isn't so "in your face". Trust me, I did this 10 years ago with my current boyfriend. We are still together to this day. He was dating some other chick and I just acted like I wasn't interested like I just wanted to be friends and talk about watering plants. He was over her in no time.
I have the feeling they'll be together for quite a long time. they r both happy and i know i should be happy for hem but i feel guilty because i want it to end.
It doesn't have to be about choosing between your friend and this girl. I've been in a similar situation before and believe me, I wish I had kept my distance from the girl (my best friend) and her boyfriend (who belonged in the same circle of friends as I did). But no! I had to play the martyr, the best friend waiting for the girl to finally realize he's the one for her. All that got me was a broken heart. My suggestion is remain friends with both of them but start hanging out with other friends more. You don't have to avoid or ignore them, just keep a little distance. Whether or not you decide to tell the girl or your friend is up to you. I'm just saying you don't want to get too close to either of them, unless you're a masochist who likes pain.
If you really like her, you would want her to be happy. And if that's what makes her happy, sometimes you just have to let the birds fly..
finnishbuttrrfy is right you can't go and wiat for her now. you should move on at least for a while and not get fixeted on her. when your friend starts to talk about how far they got togther tell him you don't want to know since she his your friend as well and it doesn't feel right for you. even if they do break up dating your friend's ex will be a big problem probebly for him and might be for you as well(getting images of him doing what he told you with your girl. I say carry on and if the wind blows her your direction one day well then that be good
