I don't understand why I can't get a girl

This issue has been bothering me for the past 3-4 years, I've never had a girlfriend, started college, off to a fresh start and most girls that I met and that I'm interested in have a guy. It's so fkin annoying. Forget about highschool, every girl was a bitch in there or she had already a guy. I talk, I am social and I don't think I'm that bad looking. I used to think, u know I'm ugly and all that. Sometimes I question myself about that..but I doubt it's that. I think it's because I'm not making the moves. I'm just tired..

 

i have no bloody ideal why you can't get a girlfriend. everything you have said is so general, i can't tell what it is you are and/or not doing. this much i can tell you for sure you are lacking in what is called, 'emotional intelligence' or 'interpersonal intelligence.' being "social" and "making the moves" is important to a degree. my hunch is, that the girls pick up on your lack of emotional intelligence.

emotional intelligence can be learned. start by reading the book 'emotional intelligence' by danial goldman.

 

Eh... Don't worry, be happy. I have found that my perpetual single-status is much more sane than the drama of relationships. Of course, that does't mean that I wouldn't like a boyfriend nor that I don't suffer from biting loneliness, I just figure I am young, in only the first year of college and am bound to find the right man at some point along the road.

Don't feel too bad, you're not alone in your loneliness.

 

Focus on you studies while everyone else is making stupid choices you will be taking care of your future

 

I'm not even sure what I wanna do in life, I'm so lost. I feel like I'm wasting my time. I wanna take a session off, work more, get some extra cash and then get off to see what I really wanna do. Sure been by yourself feels good because you've experienced relationships, thing is, I haven't.

 

im in the same boat player...just focus on your strengths, and be nice...the key IS to take the initiative (which is hard, i know)...and plus girls are fucking retards most of the time, but you cant blame them....just be patient, and try asking your good girl friends if they can hook you up or put in a good word...it may work. But your still pretty young, and its not the looks, trust me. i have seen gorgeous girls that are with the weirdest looking guys ever because it makes their "social status" look better..i.e approval of friends, fitting in with a certain group, or just simply needing someone, anyone...

just keep on truckin, and making progress by communication with girls, and one day a girl will be smart enough to realize the situation..

 

Formertechno34 - - There is a fine line that a young man needs to walk. If you push too hard you can appear too needy and mentally healthy girls will shy away, and if you are too distant they will think that you aren’t interested.

As you learn the indicators of that fine line and learn to walk it, you’ll find that the line broadens and becomes more natural for you. As you gain skill with practice, you’ll be able to be pretty aggressive without appearing pushy or needy … just like those “cool” jocks in H.S,



Good luck, it’ll work out!

 

I would like to suggest that you look at the relationship role models you have in your life. Do you have good role models? Do your parents have a good relationship? Talk to them about their relationship histories.

Many people I know seem to recreate the relationship "drama" that they grew up in.

If one parent had a dysfunction and the other tried to carry the load chances are you will emulate this in your life by either having a dysfunction or by over compensating and choosing a dysfunctional mate.

Did your parents get together young or did they focus on getting an education? Or did they go straight into the work force after high school.

Look at how you have been molded thus far? What direction do you think you are going in? Perhaps the stronger part of you wants to go in a certain direction that keeps you a solo act for now.

I think you are really young and that there are lots of females out there that are your age. I am sure that you have plenty of time.

There is a lot to be said for feeling good just being you. I hope you like yourself cause this also makes a person very attractive to the opposite sex.

 

*I don't know if you are referring to my reply or what, but I will pretent that you did.

I have not had a boyfriend, as of yet, or anything close in my 18 years of life. I have seen my friends significant others come and go, but not once has it happened to me. I went to a high school that had over 4,500 students, you'd figure that I would be able to connect with someone, but, alas, no. I now attend a college of over 25,000 students. I figure my chances are better at school than anywhere else because at school there are people who are interested in furthering their education and livelihoods. There also people there with the same interests. There more places you go, the more you will see, pretty much.
Just, don’t let it get to you. Talk with a friend who is sympathetic (or find one), or a notebook, or the wall for that matter-- you’d be surprised how helpful inanimate objects can be in releasing pent-up emotions.
Don’t feel bad, just because the people that are directly around you are all getting intimate others doesn’t mean that you are the only person on the planet without someone…

 

In my opinios most of you are wrong... I read post here saying that you shold study rather than make "stupid chices"... im sure those couples think that spending so much time studying is the stupid choice.
Another member said that its better to live single and "sane" than to be in a drama filled relationship.
In my opinion It makes more sence living so many intense emotions some being negative but be sure that most are positive that beeing alone and watching your youth pass buy in such a dull way !
I have been single for just about three months now... I miss the friendship, love, words... the SEX (incredibly 5 times a week). I now "suffer for having lost her but as a line from a famouse Brazilian artist goes "Se sorri ou se chorei... o importante e que emocoes eu vivi"
Translated.."If i smiled or if I cried, what matters is that emotions I experienced"
Roberto Carlos
Fantastic !!!

 

Of course most of us are wrong .... this is the internet!

Can you imagine what the world would be like if the world wide web were factual, truthful, and had integrity? The world as we know it would cease to exist!




Have fun and play safely!

 

Yes I can imagine that cenario... we would get a lot farther !!!

 

I tell ya looking back on my life I would give up all the sex except the one time I got pregnant I had to have gotten a a real degree before the age of 30. I did finish my degree in my middle 40's as a single parent and it was hard and by that time I should have been earning a great living I was just starting out like I had just graduated.

Believe me no career is going to ask you if you have an enjoyable sex life. If you have a good education and career you will probably have a better sex life cause you will be able to afford taking romantic vacations and you will have a better standard of living than if you don't unless you were born rich.

My thinking I had to have a relationship in my late teens and early 20's really set me back. At the time my body and brain were both at the peak I wasted this peak on partying with a man that I can't even remember the sex that well anyway. I know going to college would have been the better option for me.

 

YoMama - - - It makes me sad reading your life experience, but this thread belongs to Formertechno34.




Have fun and play safely!

 

I am 17, a freshman in college, and have never had a boyfriend or even kissed someone.
I don't want one either because it would be to distracting and there will be plenty of time once I finish school. I know sometimes it sucks listening to your friends talk about their relationships but your doing the right thing. And I don't recommend taking a break from school because it will be so hard when you want to go back.

 

DNT DO THAT!!!!! stay in school , i fuked up by that !now im a yr behind in college, try to get your first two yrs of college out the way! any ways in that time you will have time to see wat you want to do.

 

wat?? girl are better gamers then guys.

anyways...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AfCSEb1vlP8

listen the dude comes off very vulgar and very honest, its a 5hr youtube vid. but he talks about ALOT OF Truth on women. give it a chance you might learn something.

 

Eh... they are personal stories, nothing more. Take them as you will...

 

do i have to give you a hit of lsd to remind you that all that shit really doesnt matter at all? be your charming self and let your pheromones do the rest.

go
with
the
flow

 

I lost interest, I don't even wanna think about it anymore. Don't worry guys, I got it the whole get it with the flow thing. I mean, I always knew it. Thanks for the advices too and the guy with the link thing.