Well, I have been going out with this one girl for a little over a month.Both of us have never had a "spouse" and have never kissed anyone before. We've hugged and cuddled and held hands, but no kissing yet. The other night we were cuddling on my bed and I just kissed her, kind of. It just came out of no where. It was weird, I tried to do a kind of open mouth thing but she went for a peck, so my mouth was enguffling her lips. So I pulled away fast and I said " Wow I feel like an idiot now" and stuff like that. She just got up and walked away, we hung out the rest of the night but it was VERY awkward. Im scared to make another move ever again. Can anyone give me any advice to how I can get her into kissing me, basically and how I can get over the problem of being scared.
well, just tell her straight up that you are feeling the vibe. you can say stuff to trigger her to think about kissing... also, all that stuff about "i feel like an idiot" "sorry, blah blah blah" thats weak and insecure. next time instead of thinking down on yourself, laugh it off like a good joke. this stuff happens even with girls i've fucked a few times, i get better with time at knowing her moods and her reactions, what she like and dislikes. also, a relationship is a 3 legged stool. the legs are physical connection, emotional connection, and communication.(maybe this is wrong, who really knows? you figure it out) thats all i'll say, but you'll definitely have to make all the moves with this girl.
You're two people who like each other, and are seeing each other regularly as mates. I don't see why kissing her is a problem or awkward unless there is some cultural or religious thing at work here. I will give you one piece of advice about kissing though, from experience. Don't go straight for the open mouth tongue fest. That is like the sex of kissing, you know? You have to lead up to that. You have to romance her. Next time you're cuddling put your lips on her neck, don't kiss her, just place your lips on her neck lovingly for a second, and then pull back and just see how that was for her. If she didn't like it, there is some problem here that you need to communicate with her about explicitely; ie, "Do you not want to kiss me?" If she does like it, then do the same thing, but kiss her neck this time. Don't rush. Go slowly. Pretend that you have eternity with this woman, pretend this cuddling will last forever. Kiss her gently and lovingly on her neck. Look at her. Kiss her on her cheek, like she is the most precious thing in the world to you. Look at her. Kiss her a bit closer to her mouth. At this point she should be good to go, and so should you. Remember that it's not a mechanical act that you have to learn "skillz and secretz" for. You just have to be her man. If you were a woman, how would you want your man to treat you? Be that.
wow you're nineteen. Good places to start are the earlobes. So here's a basic pattern: hugging, stroke head , start to massage her head (pressure depends on her but you want more than less. Move on hands to hers (you can lightly put you nails on hers; put yours hands above hers lightly a play with the pressure). the other hand can move to her neck (around where it meets the skull thumb forefinger) Move mouth towards her ear lightly run teeth on the outer rim. Move nose gently across cheek towards face light face kisses if she doesn't shy away. Go for the peck first and then see what happens. Most things in the bedroom are about communication. This does not just include talking you can learn a lot by how she reacts to different things. One problem are women who want to please, which is great, but it can make it harder to actually sate them because they act and say what they think you want and most likely never gotten the chance to explore want they fancy. Kissing is a sweet perk of an relationship I hope you get the nerve to make a move. You seem quite timid so I doubt you will push your gf to fast to far so I recommend to you not to be so apologetic, a short look of embarrassment is enough. gl
For Kissing.. just follow the instruction... always keep your eyes closed and tell your partner to do so.... enjoy what u r doing and there will be no hesitation between both.
Whatever you do, don't flick your tongue inside their mouth really fast, I hate when girls do that, I like it when its a fluid motion
