got a question for you girls about my girl.

so my girl is off to college for a while and she doesnt want to be with me cause she says she cant handle a long distance relationship.she tells me she loves me and that if she wasnt gone that we would still be together but she just cant do the long distance thing.what do you guys think.how should i feel about this.basically we decided that when she is gone we are just gonna live our lives and when she comes back for vacations we are gonna well not be a couple but something i guess...idk im just really confused i guess and i love her and i dont want anyone else.

 

she wants college dick.

 

thanks for tryin to make a brother feel better bronice plant btw^

 

That is messed up, if she loves you no matter the distance she would be with you.

 

she told me that she CANT be with me.what should i do?like should i still hold on to her or should i just let go?

 

Sorry man - sounds like she is trolling for someone she likes better in her college crowd but likes the idea of keeping you on a string in case thing don't work out. They probably won't. Let her go man - as hard as it might be.

 

Sounds like she wants the cake and to eat it too, basically. I can understand why she would feel a long distance relationship would be too hard, however the right thing to do then is to just end it then and there, not give you false hope and leave you hanging so to speak..

 

yeah it just makes me feel like shit...and it makes me feel used.

 

Sorry man - I know just what you mean. Not to be trite - but giving up someone you care about is a bitch.

 

how long have you been together?

 

maybe she does want to see other people. ask her point blank if that is part of the issue. I know it must be hard especially if you Love her.

 

cant fault the girls honesty....

that being said it must really hurt that she doesnt even want to give it a try, sounds like she took the easy way out instead of saying that she really wasnt that into you in the first place...

damn women eh?!

who needs em?

go find someone who wants to fuck around for awhile until your head and heart are back in the right place....or just be happy that you didnt waste anymore time on someone who wasnt willing to put into a relationship what you were.

in a roundabout way the bitch did ya a favor!

 

idk bassically what she tells me is is that she cant be everything i want her to be when she is in another state.this is deeper than just a a regular relationship.me and her where best friends for a long time before we started dating and when we where dating it was pretty intense.i know everything about her.i dont feel like she is trying to get out of anything...she still calls me and wants to see me, if she wanted to get out of it easy she just wouldnt talk to me and would totally forget about me.she was just back last weekend and we chilled like the whole time we slept together everynight we had sex we cryed and talked about everything.idk i just think theres alot goin on for her right now and its just confusing for both of us.i feel she is just as confused about this situation as i am.i think we both dont know if we should hold on or let go.

 

this is basically now i feel.ill let the dead explain the rest.


I woke today, and felt your side of bed
The covers were still warm where you'd been layin'
You were gone, my heart was filled with dread
You might not be sleeping here again

It's all right, 'cause I love you
And that's not gonna change
Run me round, make me hurt again and again
But I'll still sing you love songs
Written in the letters of your name
And brave the storm to come
For it surely looks like rain

Did you ever waken to the sound of street cats making love
And guess from their cries you were listening to a fight
Well you know, hate's just the last thing they're thinking of
They're only trying to make it through the night

I only want to hold you, I don't want to tie you down
Or fence you in the lines I might have drawn
It's just that I have gotten used to having you around
My landscape would be empty if you were gone

It's all right, 'cause I love you
And that's not gonna change
Run me round, make me hurt again and again
But I'll still sing you love songs
Written in the letters of your name
And brave the storm to come
For it surely looks like rain

 

I'm sorry to say it, but she's clearly stringing you along. She says she doesn't want to be with you, but she isn't cutting the ties either. She's using you like a security blanket while still having the freedom of going out with other people.
In short, you are being used by her.
If I were you, I wouldn't stick around an awful long time.
If she loves you as much as you think she does, she wouldn't do this to you. She'd be faithful to you.

 

^your right dude and thats what im gonna do im gonna move on.thanks

 

I think the best thing for you to do is move on.
She doesn't want it because its always workable.

She wants the college guys.

 

Who breaks a butterfly upon a wheel?

Obviously it is clear that it's best to just make the cut, man. She is obviously looking to branch out and you need to respect that. I think she is letting you down softly.

Long distant relationships can be tricky business, particularly when a person starts a new era of their life.

But then on the plus side, maybe she is overwhelmed by the changes (studies will be hectic, new friends etc) and once she is settled she may take the relationship on since you guys had the bond you mentioned.

But yeah, let her go without fuss if that is what she wants, I am horrified to report. Just seems like the noble thing.

 

Make sure you take care of yourself. *Hugs*

 

As one in a long-distance relationship, let me just say for the record that it is pure HELL and I don't blame anyone who can 't go through with it. If I wasn't the solitary type I am, I would not have been able to.
It has been a long road with my fiance and I, but we get closer to the day when we can be together for good every day. Honestly, it is that thought that keeps me going. If she is not sure of her future with you (maybe she doesn't know if she wants to be with you forever- it's a lot to ask of a person), she may love you, but that isn't enough.
Some people just can't, man, and if you really love her too, you'll let her go and be happy rather than dragging her along for two years or four years or eight years or however long she's going to school- spending the whole time lonely and miserable, with nothing but a cold, plastic telephone and paper pictures to remind her of you.
Good luck.