I have made another thread on another forum (http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=406944&f=360) about my current dilemma. It's a long story so I will let those of you readers(who are actually interested in reading it) go to that link and read it for yourselves instead. With that said.... I have been seriously contemplating on expressing my attraction to this one girl I met online. She and I live in two different countries and w live very far away from each other. We have been friends for about half a year now, have been learning about each other and solidifying our friendship for the past several months. Developing a crush on her has been a very easy thing to do as she is not only physically beautiful but also amazing on the inside as well. It's actually funny that a few of our mutual friends have also had crushes on her, although it's perfectly understandable all the same given the way she is. She would tell me when someone we both know had just told her how they felt, and my reaction is always "well, are you interested?" So far nothing solid has come out of any of those instances. Now, there have been times where I would wonder if SHE had developed a bit of a "thing" for me also, for I would pick up certain vibes from her that might suggest such to be the case. But I have never actively pursued anything with her so far. One of the main reasons for this has already been stated in the thread I mentioned in the first paragraph. Add to that is the long distance aspect of our situation which might become rather problematic later on(or right away, it's difficult to say at this point). Plus there are a few other reasons why I should think twice about it. Lately, however, it seems everyone has been confiding their attraction to her, and as the result my own urge to do the same has been stimulated repeatedly also. It has been very hard to keep it deep within me. In fact, I have a feeling she might already know how I feel about her. She and I have developed some sort of connection that at times seems to have a telepathic/psychic quality to it almost. Well I guess I should emphasize on "almost", as I probably wouldn't be here rambling on about it if it was a solid psychic connection, lol. Anyway, her birthday is approaching very soon, and I'd like to give her something special. I am a musician so I figured she might appreciate an original song(about her) written just for her. But on the other hand, I don't know if doing so and revealing my true feelings is a good idea when we live so far apart from each other. Honestly, I'm not really asking her to get into a long distance relationship with me. At this point, I don't think it's fair of me to do that to her. It's just that there is a part of me that strongly feels she has the right to know, and also because not being able to express these feelings for her has been rather suffocating on my part. What do you guys think about this situation of mine? I thank you in advance for your comments.
Relax, have confidence, be totally honest about feelings (if you two have an easy, natural friendship it wont be difficult at all) and have fun writing that song! Sweet idea. As for the time cycle thing, let it go. I'm sorry for your losses and breakups...but dogs live around 12 years (hence the 6 year cycle appearing with that one, possibly) and breakups happen whenever. It's natural for a human mind to seek out patterns but I an assure you, this is one with no relevance at all. Seriously, don't let it bother you. Free yourself of it and realise you can do whatever you like and people will die when they will die no matter what you're doing (unless you're a murderer) I used to be a pattern seeker, laying some mystical question over simple facts like dates of meeting people and suchlike. You know what? Life is so much better, clearer and more simple since I let that stuff go. I'm free.
Thanks for the reply Fingermouse. Yes, she and I have a very natural, laid-back kind of friendship, and I also trust she would be willing to remain friends with me even if she wasn't interested in me romantically. She has so far maintained her friendships with most of our mutual friends who had also confided to her that they had crushes on her, which I view as a great thing. The cycle thing, I DO try to let go... So I'll just say that I'm working on it! LOL But anyway, please be assured I'm not a murderer, LOL.
Hello everyone, I think that I owe you guys an update, so here we go... To make the long story short, the girl and I are now an "item" of some sort. I sent her the song, she appreciated it, I further expressed my feelings the next opportunity I had(2 days afterward actually), and she in turn accepted them. I also found out just the other day during one of our learning-about-each-other conversations that she in fact had a crush on me, too. So we basically were attracted to each other but both had our own reasons to keep our MUTUAL feeling bottled within. Talk about something out of a romance novel, LOL. She and I are still talking things slowly since this is an online relationship. We actually haven't even made it "official" per se, but we nevertheless express our feelings for each other everyday over the internet. The long distance aspect of our relationship is frustrating at times, but we always talk about meeting up some day. And some day I WILL visit her in her country. At any rate, I am now what one would refer to as "taken". It's been years since I had that label on me, but I'm very happy right now. She is an amazing girl(like you have NO idea!) and, considering her personality and the way we click so well, not to mention the other more "superstitious" reasons behind our union, I truly believe that she and I were meant to cross paths. It is still at an online relationship stage, but I fully intend to nurture it until she and I actually meet up in person. I remain optimistic about this whole thing. Once again thank you for reading and commenting. I really appreciate all of that.
