To make a long story short, last week, a girl named Emily pulled me aside and asked me if I were romantically interested in her, stemming from some drama between us from last year. The answer I gave her that I felt was honest was no, and she seemed content to leave it at that. I was just trying to be friendly and forge more of a friendship after what happened. However, since then, I have become very concerned about being able to establish that friendship, believing that she would surely have been scared off by what happened. I've been doing a lot of thinking as to why that bothers me so much. The fact of the matter is that I've been suffering from serious depression over the last several months, and can never handle it when things go wrong, especially the propect of a lost opportunity for friendship. That is how I have been explaining it, but is it also possible that I could want to date her?
Do you enjoy her company? Are you attracted to her physically? If the answer to both of those is yes I would say there is a good chance. Maybe you are depressed because you are afraid to take chances more than being afraid of something going wrong. There is always a risk of something going wrong in aspect of life so you don't take chances (I am guessing). I have depression as well and one of the things I "try" to work on with my counselor is my inability to enjoy life. I sit back and watch it go by because I am afraid, much like you. So, take a chance. This girl could turn out to be your wife (assuming you are roughly 25 based on your screename). If you pass her by could that be seen as something not working out? It is all how you look at it.
It could be. Only you could truly know, and clearly, you don't =P You might want to give it a shot, but just be clear with her that's what you're doing.
I think it is not a matter of what you want, but more a matter of hormones that is causing the pressure. In other words, it's not an existential dilemma.
Well, I do realize now that I probably would want more than friendship with her, that is, if not for my longtime attraction to a mutual friend. As far as Emily goes, I would not hesitate to date her if she were interested, and I really doubt she is.
Dude, maybe I'm wrong here, but if a girl asks you if you are romantically interested in her, then this is a clear indicator that she wants a date. It's like testing out if you'd agree on a date. You declined, so it's up to you to ask her out. Cheers!
Not necessaily. If her question came out of nowhere, then I would agree. But girl would also ask me if there had been interactions between us that would suggest romantic interest in my part, which is what happened here.
Well, I did approach her, concerned about headed for romantic interest that I thought was useless. It turns out that she's not available anyhow. Her being in a relationship is not a problem, but she seemed totally lost when I mentioned what I recalled about her saying it would be ok if I were romantically interested. At this point, I'll try to avoid her like the plague just to cut out any futher drama between us.
