Difficult orgasm, advice please

I enjoy sex, I have no problem getting wet but the only way I can achieve orgasm is with a vibrator or a shower head. Any advice would be welcome.

 

I have done everything except anal
Clitoris, G-spot stimulations
Penetration
(Both with toys, fingers, penis, oral using different techniques)
Breast play, hands and mouth together or separately.
In some cases, lots of patience, it’s worth it.

 

Thanks for replying but could you be more specific about details and techniques.

 

Try grinding a cushion, pillow.
Try different angles inside.
You look for ideas with a partner?

Slow rubbing yourself wherever it feels good.
Vibrator on your breasts, nipples.
Try playing with them different ways.

 

I will send you a message with lots of details tomorrow latest, getting ready for shower and bedtime
Looking forward to write

 

With a partner and solo

 

Sex-toys help me a lot

 

What type?

 

Yeah, they helped me too but I am looking for a way to have an orgasm with only human contact.

 

You know your body best. You've probably just been doing the vibe and shower head routine so long, that's what you're used to and what you need now. Hold off for a few days for a reset and try some direct tongue - to - clit contact on your next encounter. It's hard to compete with the stimulation from a shower head or a vibe - I had a girlfriend that was pretty much hooked on the shower head - it took us a while to figure it out how to get her over the top with sex, but once we got it down, it usually worked. I'd go down on her, or we'd 69 first until she had cum or was almost there - then I could finish us both off with a hard fuck. Maybe try masturbating with just your fingers until you get it figured out - it's like being addicted to porn - your body is just used to that stimulation.

 

Have you tried getting on top ?

 

"You know your body best."
I don't really and I guess that is one of the problems. I tend to be more of a giver in bed, always trying to please my partner and not really worrying about my own pleasure. The few periods of time we actively tried to get me to orgasm things did not go well, it just created too much pressure for both of us. After a few weeks or months of frustrations we would just revert back to what worked.
Thank you for the advice though.

 

I have done it in just about every position but while enjoyable, just couldn't quite get me there.

 

A few years ago I met a woman who never had an orgasm with a partner, it took me nonstop hard work for a pretty long time, just when I was about to quit it happened. And it goes to say my arm was sore and tired.
Just wondering if you are one of those women who need more work.

 

I think it's easy to get all in your head and psych yourself out thinking you're not going to cum during sex, then of course you can't. So, I guess you're at a turning point where you have to decide something needs to change, or you take it as it has been - nothing changes if nothing changes. Spend a week or two away from the vibe and shower head, get in touch with yourself and figure out how it works so you can show him what you need - it must be discouraging for him not to be able to put you over the top. That or you decide to bring the vibe with you during sex to help him along and that's how it will always have to be. How about a few drinks or some pot to loosen you up?

 

Plausible cause. On that, maybe just enjoy whatever happens knowing something more could happen

 

Or just enjoy it.....

 

I am amazed at your dedication! The truth is I wouldn't know, there have been times when I was sure I was about to cum but my husband would either shift his position or stop moving for a minute so he doesn't blow his load thus sabotaging the whole thing. Same sort of thing would happen when using his fingers, either he would shift or have to stop right before I got there. I am going to try some of your suggestions that you sent but I don't know if it will work. I may have to just do it myself but I find it hard to get that excited touching myself. When it's someone else touching you, you don't know exactly what they will do. How can I get that feeling of excited anticipation when I already know what's about to happen?

Yeah, sometimes I can overthink things but I learned a long time ago to let go when we have sex otherwise its just not worth it. Sometimes I wonder if he does it on purpose.

 

Try with him using his fingers again
Yes it becomes tiring and sore when going fast and hard for a long enough time.
Maybe after penetration that gets you already feeling good.
I have enough experiences where I did it from penetration, and some that needed more as I could not last.

 

Also try the ideas I sent you just to try them and discover yourself in the process.

There was a time when I was not as dedicated, with my ex. Not sure why.
After her, for some reason the curiosity and desire to please increased a lot, and knowledge.