Cutting out porn, and cutting down on masturbation

I would just get some tv shows or movies involving the kinds of personalities I'm looking to attract. I don't think porn raises your expectations, I think it just jades them.

 

I think that jerking is healthy.. just don't over do it.

 

dear OP,
i have recently cut porn out of my life (im 28). also stopped masturbating. why? because i live in a city with alot of night clubs and not wanking it gives you a sexual edge that you probably have never experienced before. when you dont masterbate the natural sexual energy you have can be harnessed in way better ways, like having sex with actual women. dont listen to people who say porn is awsome, they are just lazy, stick with it for at least a couple of months and i promise you that you will see results in your psychology and phisiology. next time you feel horny, call up one of those girls on your phone. dont have any girls on your phone? maby you shoulnt be wasting time wanking it. maybe you should find a female of your species and fuck her.

 

I can relate to this, big time.

 

I wish you'd stop smoking crack.

Wacking it does not take away your "edge" fella....if anything, it keeps you moderated so you don't blow your shit up prematurely and embarass yourself in front of your girl.
I think maybe your life is fictional and it sounds cool to say that for you.
I actually find most dudes wack it MORE when in a sexual relationship, as the memories (aka spank bank) and sexual activity is more familliar and not so distant, like when you're single and lonely, like yourself

Are you like....12?

 

Spank bank! Good one. Since I'm single, I check in to youporn occasionally to remind me-self just how lovely and desirable clam is.

Whip it!. Whip it real good!

 

The best orgasms my experience are those where you fantasise over real women in your life where there is a degree of attraction and affection.These masturbatory sessions can be began as you ready yourself for bed and know one may know.Your fantasy world can assume complete freedom and untrammeled exploration of your sexual desire.Focusing on someone you have a sexual desire for increases tha chance of a more intense orgasm and will be more than likely lead to a pleasant relaxing sleep free of guilt and shame.Good spontaneously orgasms may result.I don't recommend extensive edging as can lead to an ultimately disapointing climax.Prolonged exposure to porn feels highly sexually exciting stimulation but often culminates in a ratheempty orgasm largely devoid of sexual pleasure,which for many males can give rise to feelings of disgust and disappointment.When masturbation over women you know intimately and this can sometimes give rise to an almost essensualist deeper connection which will perhaps give subtle signs that you have an interest in her.Women have a highly attuned six sense in this v.From own experience try to avoid porn as is damaging to the soul and depicts scenarios which at first glance appear visually exciting,but with regular exposure there is a danger of the blissful entirely nature and uncontrived sharing in the warm,trust,natural and joyous union of two bodies pressing flesh against flesh,without having to consider your performance.In my right mind sex should evolve naturally whith no prior notions as to what should in advance,especially when taking into account porn industry.Be kind to your partner and try to the cute sides to them that others may fail to see.

 

yo, you gotta save it trust me. horniness does give you an edge, that hebrew guy doesn't fuck hoes like i do trust me. i was gonna respond to him, but when i read his comment i just got back from a 3 day long lsd and cocain fueled orgy!

i dont have a girlfriend so i dont have sex every single time i want to, but i only get laid from one night stands. when you are at that level, you dont get embarrassed. you have like 3 or 4 rounds until the girl is literally asking you to stop.

seriously speaking, i have had long term relationships. if you have been in a really long term relationship like after a few years, how many times do you have sex for 2-3 hours at a time. ive been in long term relationships, i know that 99% of the time its a quick 20 minute session, you both get off and you fall asleep. its all good an dandy, and im not denying that theres good stuff there, but nowadays when i get laid, i make it count god dammit!

i have sex with plenty of strangers, and i dont go on "dates". its just as awesome as it sounds and one of the things that i have to thank for that is having the discipline to not masturbate every night.

dont get me wrong, i do masturbate occasionally, but i dont make it a habit, and when i do its not to porn, its to my awesome memories. fucking strangers and having one night stands does require a certain type of lifestyle though, its definitely not for everybody. clubs and edm festivals are my home. some people think clubs are annoying or pretentious but when i walk into a club thats so loud i cant hear myself speak, i feel at home. i dont need to talk. i just rub my bonner on a dancing chick and go from there.

so yea, im actually 28, and would fuck an 18 year old if they where allowed in clubs, but thats what festivals are for! and i am lonely most of the time, the thing is, after having a few girlfriends, i prefer to be lonely. i love it because i have the freedom to do and fuck whoever i want. so hate on that while your fucking your boring ass girlfriend.

 

So I guess maybe Iam the weird one here, I personally don’t find masturbating a waste of time, I look forward to my masturbation time, I enjoy pleasuring myself. I never use porn to masturbate. Orgasm can be hard to achieve sometimes, I can’t get a full erection anymore, and I can’t shoot cum like I used to, I used to beable to shoot over my head and hit the wall, so constantly try to be creative and kinky as possible to make it better,

 

Except for one period of time where I was a bit mentally screwed up, I have never purposely cut down porn, or masturbation. Works for me, and I also really like to edge. So it works out. If I have a really good masturbation session, and that's usually every time these days, I'm good for several days. But I get into these moods occasionally where I might crave release like two, or three days in a row. That, to me, is natural.

 

Masturbation keeps me sane! Has done for the last 27 years.

 

I stopped watching porn months ago. It got boring. Best decision ever. Now I just use imagination if that.

 

Never had porn in my teenage years, and I have never tried to cut down on masturbation. I obey my sexual urges as they occur, even today.

 

Visual porn gets stale quickly and numbs the mind. Reading erotic material stimulates the imagination and exercises the mind. Your primary sex organ is your brain and a healthy imagination, not your penis.

 

"i don't get the mentality of wanting to resist your natural urges and impulses and denying yourself."

Something I have never done, and equally the feelings of guilt and shame some teens have when they give in to the universal urge.
Porn and masturbation have kept me sane for over 27 years. I sure wish i had had the easy access to porn when i was a teenager.

 

I have NEVER tried to cut down on porn or mastrurbation since I started 68 years ago.

Never will until they start nailing down the lid!

 

"Visual porn gets stale quickly and numbs the mind. Reading erotic material stimulates the imagination and exercises the mind. Your primary sex organ is your brain and a healthy imagination, not your penis."


I remember reading "dirty books" way back before the internet and Playboy, with a dozen dog ears turned at the arousing passages, masturbating to them until they fell to bits.
Then 'Lady Chatterley's Lover came out.............

 

OP, you might be over thinking this unless you are getting to work late.
Maybe audio porn could be a substitute for watching, I'm not sure what the rules are.
Work on will power, you don't want to go blind like me.

 

I still have 20/20 vision, however, it's easy to get caught up in it all - especially with a home office when there's two or three screens going all day.

 

I don’t have the solution but I do have an observation to mention. Ever since I got seriously involved with my girlfriend, my porn viewing is down to almost nothing. I used to watch a lot of transgender porn but now I have a transgender girlfriend. Since we are separated by Covid it’s not like we are able to have sex - just the webcam. Nevertheless I just lost my whole desire for porn with her.