Hey there, this is kind of embarrassing for me but ill get right to it. I am having some serious trouble lasting longer in bed. I am 21 yrs old so i dont know if its something i have to grow out of or not. Ive researched and tried many options. Jerking off before the sex session doesnt seem to help. Honestly i can jerk off for as long as i want to and control it just fine. But when it comes to penetration or oral sex im lucky to last 2 min. If i am lucky enough to get a second round then i do a little better but not nearly as good as i would like. ive also tried excersizing the PC muscle. That didnt help either. I tried numbing cream. That helped a little but still not enough. Going slower doesnt help much. Ive also researched on the internet and didnt have much luck other than having to buy someones book which i always think will be a scam. This has become very difficult and stressful now because i just want to be able to please my girlfriend and be able to connect with her in the bedroom and now i am lucky if i get sex once in a month. There is a distance between us because of this problem and its a real downer. And seeing the disappointment in her face or having her yell "babe really!? " is just something i have to listen to everytime and it really doesnt help my confidence. If anyone has any advice i would really appreciate it.
you have to use your PC muscles on each thrust while doing very controlled breathing. Breath in as you thrust, and clench your muscle then hold your breath and release it when you pull back. Count your thrusts in ten and think of the pulling outward motion as the sex instead of the thrusting inward, like you're trying to pull her juices out of her or something. Try doing some meditative sex too. Just put yourself inside her and have her wrap her legs around you while you sit cross legged and then just hold your muscles. The two of you can flex and breath together and it will make things feel very amazing when you start to thrust again if you do it right. Don't get blowjobs. Blowjobs feel too good. Use thick condoms. I find lifestyles are really thin, but trojans and magnums are thicker and not very sensitive. Also; try eating out your girl and fingering her until she comes before you even start having sex. If you make her come a couple times before penetration, the sex will seem like it lasts hours because orgasms are psychedelic and dilate time. It's also easier to make girls cum with your cock once you've already made them cum with your tongue. Just remember that its all about the foreplay mannn
and just make sure you feel really confident whenever you are going to have sex. Find something you're proud of and do it the day before or something like that.
Don't buy any books lol, it's just someone's attempt to make money, which I wrote a book about that you can buy! Just go to... I've had occasions where / when really horny I came early, but not regularly to the point I had to seek out other venues. And keep in mind you may read about people lasting hours and who knows that may be but statistically men don't last more than a few minutes or more. So ignore a lot of the BS you may read here and what you see in porn (remember they are trained professionals) and kudos for you that you are thinking of her pleasure as well. Anyway I personally think you might try some mental discipline, or Viagra (and no I'm not a spokes person for Viagra as I've comment in a few threads about it). The Mental discipline part is simply trying to divert your mind and I've heard a few funny things to do but mostly it's reciting things you know, singing songs in your head or going through things like "who's on first, what's on second..." or the batting teams lineup or whatever. I've had to resort to this a few times myself but as you get a bit older you actually find yourself doing the opposite sometimes to be able to cum. On the other hand there's Viagra in which case it doesn't matter when you cum as you'll stay hard. I don't' know if you still need a prescription for it or not and I'm not about to go buy pills over the internet. I've never tried other similar pills but damn these things make me hard as a rock no matter how many times I cum, and potentially for days if I want... there are side effects which are minor but damn if you ever want to be the super hero in bed this is the key as this shit will make you Cap America provided your energy level can keep up. Good luck!
Coming from someone a similar age who used to be REALLY worried about this (my first time, I came the second my girlfriend took it out of my pants and had a psychological ED issue for half a year...I'm good now), I think I might be able to give some advice. 1. You would be surprised how much psychology has to do with it (obviously the problem in your case, since you can masturbate as long as you want). If your girlfriend insists on being a serious bitch about it, you're going to have a lot more trouble, because that puts even more emphasis on performance. If you go into the situation with a bunch of anxiety and tenseness, you can't help but to finish fast. So try to get her to talk about it and to be open and supportive. May sound wussy and all, but it helps. A lot. You guys have to be open and be able to talk about it if there's a problem. From experience, state of mind can have huge physiological effects (for a while I had a problem where performance anxiety killed my erections every time I went to have sex). So going into the situation with less anxiety is a necessity. When I had my erection problem, TRYING to get/regain an erection made it literally impossible to get one. And in a number of instances, TRYING to orgasm when I'm not close pushes off the climax even further. So trying NOT to come makes it inevitable that you will, and sooner than you'd like. Because you're putting pressure on yourself. To decrease anxiety, try to put less pressure on what you can do in intercourse. Try getting good at oral sex, manual sex, etc. and see if you can make her come like that. Girls love clitoral stimulation, which they don't get as much of in intercourse, so she might love it. When she's done, then go ahead at vaginal intercourse. Since she already came there's not as much pressure to last, and many girls are multi-orgasmic so she'll enjoy it anyway and might even orgasm twice. You might find that you last longer since there's less anxiety going with it. Check out this article. It helped take off some anxiety for me when I was struggling. http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/sexual-performance-anxiety/ 2. Breathe deeply. Rapid breathing triggers further arousal. 3. Look at the wall, think about stock prices, do math in your head, anything to take your mind off the sensations. 4. Take breathers. If you're getting too close, stop for a bit. Go down on her, finger her, etc. Go back in when you're ready. 5. Slow down. 6. If one angle of penetration feels "too good", try one that's less stimulating. Hope that helped!
Awesome thank you! She loves when i go down on her which is good. I can get her off like that no problem.Ill check out that article and hopefully it will help. Like i said, its to the point now where im lucky to get laid once a month. So i dont know when ill be able to report back with an update.
Get drunk and have sex, my wife always tells me I last forever. When your having sex don't get bulging, think of like a guy or a dog or someone that is a male and it will make you last longer. P practice staring at the ceiling or watching TV don't put all your attention into it. I've been with my wife for 5 years and I've only gone off in her 3 times...
Don't focus on the pleasure of the situation. Try to picture your grandma in a bikini. (Can't offer much advice. I regularly last over an hour)
Get her off several times before you enter, then when you enter go very slow...... be honest about your problem and ask her if you can stop if you need too. If it happens, it is not the end of the world, just tell her you will take a break and be ready for round 2
Play stop and go! Pull it out let the throbbing die down but rub or lick her in the mean time. When the cum urge dies down slide it back in. Practice! Keep her stimulated and in to it you'll get better. Maybe she just feels that good. I've had guys just stick it in and start to blow. Stop and go! And keep her into it.
Maybe you can try a certain type of condom or wear more at a time. --- I've also heard that trying to make one's-self last longer while masturbating can lead to lasting longer while having actual intercourse with another person.
