Hi there, one of the previous threads about 'boob jobs' inspire this posting. Imagine your significant other (woman or man doesn't matter in this thread ;-) wants to enlarge her or his boobs. But you like them as they are now. It doesn't matter if they are huge or petit, you like them. And you like them natural. Now your partner fulfils her or his desire and pimps the boobs. How do you react? Do you arrange with the situation? Or do you grab your belongings and leave? Regards Gyro
It all depends on what you want from the relationship and why you're with that person. If you only want them for their body and it doesn't satisfy you anymore then leave, but if you like them as a person more than anything then it shouldn't matter what their breasts are like.
My girlfriend wouldn't do that. Firstly, even though she feels hers could be bigger, she realizes implants are ewwy Secondly, and much more importantly, because I have a good girlfriend - and who does that sorta thing without their significant other's consent?
Hi, well, the body is only a part of the relationship, maybe a small part. What do you say if your significant other asks you about the new boobs? 'I liked them better before' is probably not what she/he wants to hear. So what? Lying? The other point is attitude. In my opinion I'm too fat, I'm too this, I'm too that, need a new nose/boobs/whatever isn't sexy. Accepting the given body, making fun of the own minor 'design faults' etc is sexy. That doesn't mean that being a couch potato, bolting down tons of snacks and gaining weight with no end and such is OK. I don't know why women (and men, of course) form their bodies without medical indication. Are they pressed by their partners and/or society? My initially depicted scenario might not occur too often, but it exists. Regards Gyro
I wouldn't mind implants, I don't think. It may even enhance my attraction, or it might not. Ultimately, it's her body. If I was not attracted to her anymore, I would leave - but not because I felt she did something wrong to me. But I doubt it, I think fake D cups might possibly make me more attracted, rather than less. Possibly...I would have to be in the actual situation to know.
It does happen, sure - but you asked me how we would react - and I would never would be with a person like that, so I wouldn't be reacting to that situation. My tastes and limits go against that type of person. Anyways, if I were to be with a person like that, I suppose it would be an automatic dump.
Being female, I don't know if I can answer this right. I have my own boobs. Thus, I am not fascinated or fixated on boobs like most men seem to be (just a theory ). I would like to think that if I did choose to go that route, my boyfriend would respect my decision, as my boobs are not me, and I would hope, not my only attractive feature. People do change, though, whether by their own volition or not. How is it any different than aging? If he stops loving me because I changed my boobs, how in the world will he still love me when my boobs sag to my waist? I have to say, though, making a judgment about a person's character solely based on the fact that they want/had breast augmentation is extremely unfair (sorry, Duck). Obviously, you will have a much better idea of why someone would do it if you know them and can actually discuss it with them, and if they seem to change or tend more toward that ugly superficiality that some might find unattractive, then I'd probably be disgusted. However, there are other reasons why one would want it done. We do a lot of unnatural things every day of our lives and barely give them a thought. While I think this requires a little more thought than strapping yourself into the car and driving to work, I don't see anything inherently "wrong" or "unattractive" about it. Like I said, though, I'm a girl, and thus might be ill-equipped to answer the question according to the male psyche. I can only say what I think is fair.
You are completely off base about what my motivations would be for such actions. In the OP's prompt, girlfriend is running off and getting the augmentation without even consulting 'you' or considering 'your' feelings. That would be the major problem. It's not that I would stop loving her cause she changed her breasts - it's that I would realize how little love and respect for me she has. However, I do not think I could be physically attracted to a woman with breast implants (not because it's wrong =S, but because it looks fucking ugly to me =P) - which would majorly get in the way of a relationship for two people who are sexual and able.
I would never get breast implants. I like my B cups even though a C to me is perfect. D cups are too big and unattractive. I do have a friend who is a natural C cup. Beautiful C cup and in my opinion, perfect. She got implants and now they aren't a D cup or even a DD. She is now an F cup. EWW!!! Now she's got these big fake boobs. But her big fake boobs earned her a lot of money. She got into the adult film industry and calls herself Puma (Puma Swede is her full name). She's very beautiful and her tits were perfect but now they are waaaay too big=(
Good morning, I guess boobs are a topic for men and women, too. I have the feeling women often comment body parts of other women as much as men do. And they might be in an endless competition with other women regarding their bodies. But that might be a platitude or my biased opinion . Oh, in my opinion that are two totally different things. One is natural, the other artificial. I'm a few years older than you and I have to confess that I like young women, they are 'eye candy', so to speak. If they are in their thirties (and above) their boobs might become saggy, there might be little wrinkles here and there. So what? You can see that they have lived for some time. Often that makes them more attractive. I like that. That is the way live works. I'm quite sure your fiance has a similar mindset (even if he don't know it at the moment). So don't worry about aging too much . I appreciate your opinion. That is what this thread is about, gathering opinions of people with different social and cultural backgrounds. In general it depends on the person that is attached to the boobs. D-sized boobs might be OK on a person with 'a little meat on the bones', but personally I like the smaller ones better. Regards Gyro
Hi Orison, I'm fine with that. With you taking the doobs there are more boobs left for me . Regards Gyro
I honestly think that if a women is getting it done for herself and it makes her happy then let her do it. Who are we to judge someone on weather the "girls" are fake or real. I think if it is done in taste that it is ok. I mean if a women goes from an A cup to an E then that seems a bit over the top. But it doesn't seem fair to judge a women on weather she has gone under the knife or not. I honestly am contemplating on getting a boob job myself, but not to make my "girls" larger, I actually want them smaller. I'm a DD cup and these things are killing my back. Not to mention that they are always in the way. I can't even fricken run with these things. I'll probably end up doing it in the end. I mean even when I was a C cup that seemed to big, I'd rather be a full B cup then what I am now.
Hi Sophie-Clair, well, if I'm involved in a relationship with that woman I judge (IMHO judge sounds a little bit harsh. But I'm not a native speaker.) her the same way as I would do if she comes up with a huge tattoo, piercings or any other radical change in her mind set or physical appearance. Asking for reasons for 'boob jobs' and stating that I don't like fake boobs doesn't imply that I have a negative opinion of such women in general. But 'uhh, nobody loves me, I need huge boobs to change that' isn't very attractive, is it? It might imply that the woman has some other problems, that I don't want to deal with. I remember some of your sig pictures and your older postings. There is a good reason for the procedure. A friend of mine has a similar problem. She is in the middle of her thirties and she has constantly problems with her back. I guess the situation becomes worse if she becomes 20 years or so older and has to face the general weakness of older bodies. Regards Gyro
If they did it despite your protests I don't think packing up and leaving is the answer. You are hopefully with this person because you care about more than their boobs. And, at the end of the day, it is her decision. But fake boobs ARE ew.
What a one-sided answer. They should also be with you because they respect you. It is both people's job in a loving relationship to try to make the other person happy - this includes sexually. If they did it despite protests - they clearly aren't even trying to hold up their end of the deal.
Pardon me. I considered both sides which is really the best I can do. Trying to imagine being with someone I loved very much who went and had some sort of plastic surgery I do not know that it would be right, nor something I could do, to pack my bags and go. I don't agree with the idea of plastic surgery one bit and it's a tough scenario but MY opinion is that it would be awfully difficult to throw in the towel on that superficial basis alone. If you are still in the process of getting to know this person then that kind of action speaks volumes and you may take that as your queue to bow out.
I don't see how it's superficial. You haven't even recognized the idea I brought up - of their obvious lack of respect for you in that situation. I really would get metal spikes if I was single and could afford it. You get these little metal screw holes implanted into your skull - and you can screw in spikes whenever you want to. They even make all kindsa different spikes. My girlfriend thinks they are creepy, weird, and would bring about way too much attention. Since I am serious about her, love her, respect her, and want to make my life so that I can share it with her - there is no way I would get the spikes while dating her - even if I had the money.
