Bad gay experiences

I hear a lot of wonderful stories here and on other Websites of man on man (or men) adventures lasting ten minutes, one night and longer. Sometimes it's a Grindr hookup, sometimes there's an advantageous gloryhole, sometimes two guys meet on the street and sense enough of a spark to want to take things behind closed doors. I am happy whenever you're fortunate to get together in this fun way!
I guess my question is more about hookups but I guess it can apply to longer term relationships. But it's at least sort of specific to homosexual interaction.
Have any of you guys experienced any bad situations when alone with another guy? For example, have you been with a man who has been excessively abusive? Has a man ever tried to blackmail you for whatever reason? Has any guy been cavalier about practicing safe sex especially if you suspected him of having STDs? Have you had a man mess with your emotions? Have you had a man fall in love with you when all you were expecting and wanting was fun? Any other problems?
I don't want to get all Debbie Downer on the prospect of having gay sex. It's something I intend and look forward to experience and be open to enjoying very much. But I want to be able to recognize signs I should avoid opportunities that would not be so great either for me personally or in general.

 

I was involved with a gay man for about four months back in the early 90's. We met through CL, his ad was titled "Blow job from STR8 man"...The title of the ad made me chuckle because IMO if a man sucks another mans cock he's really not totally str8...JMO. Anyway, I stopped over to his apartment. I'm very nervous as this is only the second time being with another man for me. He walked me directly to his bedroom after introductions. He removed his pants and his cock was huge, hanging flaccid he was easily 8" long. My mouth was salivating as I sucked his cock for almost two hours that first meeting. Fully erect his cock was a bit over 10" long but not real thick, an absolute joy to suck on. We continued to get together twice a week so I could suck his cock, he didn't show any interest in sucking mine so most times I would jack off while sucking him, shoot my load on his cock and continue sucking him until he shot his load too, return home to my wife and have sex with her as well. Anyway, one afternoon he wanted me to kiss him which I never had a desire to do but just did it to please him and found it to be very erotic and every meeting afterwards we kissed a lot whenever I would take a break from sucking his cock. Then one afternoon he said "I love you" and want you to be with me...Well, that was NOT what I wanted to hear so I broke it off with him. Two days later I get an email from him that contained photos of me sucking his cock. I was completely unaware any photos were taken at any time he and I were together. He said in his email that if he cannot have me then neither can my wife as he's going to send photos to our home. This really pissed me off and had me worried that my infidelities with a gay man were going to be exposed and destroy my marriage, family, and employment. For several months I was walking on pins and needles but photos never arrived and I never heard back from him again.

 

Out of maybe 4-500 meets the last few years I can say I have been lucky and not really had any bad experiences, sure there are sone meets that afterwards you think I could have missed that one.....and others where it is a one-way 'street'. .only he wants pleasure .. it's not reciprocal....but it can also be hot to be 100% subservient. Nobody has ever made any form of threats or violence, overall the biggest fuck-up for me is time-wasters.

That's really a shit thing to do! Sorry to hear it.

Simon

 

Thanks for the response. I'm so sorry you had such a scare. It was totally unacceptable for him to threaten you like that. Of course this behavior is the antithesis of showing love.

 

Thank you too for the response. One of my concerns is, because of the less mainstream nature of same sex encounters and whatever consequences there are from that, there are some things to look out for specifically. But in your experience nothing horrible has happened. I can accept some duds in my journey. And I even want to experience being completely submissive for a guy, maybe not for my first time but in my lifetime. Your input gives me a little more comfort and confidence in proceeding with my same sex pursuits.

 

I had one where a guy I met had me cornered in his house. Something didn't feel right. I felt scared and a sudden rush of adrenaline kicked in. I immediately went into defense mode and firmly told him if you know what's best for you. You will get out of my way and let me leave. He did what was best and I left.

Ever since then. I refuse to meet up with anyone until I get to know them and get a feel for them. So if you are looking for meeting up that second. Well you're shit out of luck. Those are the ones I stay away from.

 

I am definitely not looking to meet RIGHT NOW! I'm horny but I can wait. Sorry you had to learn kind of the hard way, but it could've been worse and now you know.

 

Yup! It could have. Well. If something did happen. Good luck finding my car, car keys, and wallet. I hid them prior to going in. Lesson learned!

 

I did have one really bad experience which actually put a halt to my same sex adventures.I had met a guy at a bar we went back to his place when we got back I excused myself to use bathroom I came back out in just a g string I was there to have sex with him I wanted to I proceeded to give him a blow job as I came up after about 5/7 minutes I asked him to fuck me like the the little whore I was.I had a bag with lube and condoms he turned me around and told me he was going to fuck me bareback I was almost always safe (always used condoms for anal sex sometimes even oral but very rarely ) I resisted and told him no condom no sex and I was adamant.Said we can frot I can blow u etc he overwhelmed me as he was much bigger and stronger and pretty much had his way with me .Not just once but multiple times he hid my keys from me I didn’t give them back to me till the next day and 4 orgasms in my ass later .I freaked out got into counseling got an hiv test 3 months later and have not had sex with a man for almost 9 years now

 

That's horrible I'm so sorry you went through this! This was nothing less than abuse. You were clear about what you were willing and not willing to do. This individual did not respect that and crossed a clear line. This is all his fault.

 

Thank you I appreciate that.Only after being in a longer relationship would I engage in unprotected sex and after both my partner and I were tested.I was very afraid for my safety and figured if I complied after the first time he would hopefully let me go (which he did ) I wasn’t going to run out of his pad naked (my clothes were also hidden ) .The thought came to me to go to police after but I was too embarrassed and was also living my gay sex life in secrecy

 

Dude. He raped you. So sorry you went through it. You're lucky to be alive.

 

To offer a different opinion and I’ll use myself as an example...I consider myself straight mainly because I live a “straight” lifestyle. I don’t have any phobias or biases in regards to the LGBTQ+ community...it’s just not my way of every day life.
Sexually...I’m all over the place!

Bad experiences....
I can’t say I’ve ever had and bad gay sex experiences, the few that I’ve had.
I have had many more MTF Transgender hookups than I can count though. Some were a bit disappointing but none have ever been what I would consider to be bad.
[Sidebar]
Many if not most men who see TS/TG don’t consider themselves gay. Bi...most likely but not gay. That’s why I separate the two.

My first gay sexual experience was with a younger twink (escort) that I found on Backpage several years ago. I had been with several trans girls at that point but wanted to try something different. I met him at his apartment and while I was getting undressed, he sat on the bed and watched. I removed my shirt, dropped my pants and then he took off his shorts and walked over to me. Things just kind of flowed after that.
I fucked him several times over the course of a few years.
He stopped seeing me though... and the reason is, I was really horny one night when we were together...and after we sucked each other and I rolled him over and rimmed him almost uncontrollably. I was fucking him after and for reasons I can’t explain...I started dirty talking in a very dominant aggressive manner. I wasn’t being rough with him, I was just being very direct with my words. It wasn’t a bad experience for me...but obviously it was for him because he wouldn’t respond to my attempts to see him again, regrettably.
My Grindr hookups have been fun and I can’t say that any of them have been bad, but I’m very choosy and almost picky with who I agree to hook up with.

 

I had a bad experience once. It was a Grindr hookup. I had gone to this guys house and we snogged in the hallway for a bit at first, he barely let me in the door and he was on me. I was much younger than he was so he probably couldn’t believe his luck. We went up to his bedroom and we kept kissing and we got undressed. I made it clear that I wasn’t looking to give or receive any anal sex on the app earlier just some mutual wanking, sucking etc. It was fine at first, he lay down on the bed and I then got on top of him on all fours and I started sucking his cock. He then turned me around, stroking me and kissing me so I was facing away from him. He was kissing and licking around my ass. It was nice and I was quite happy for him to rim me, I just wasnt prepared for anal that day, so didn’t worry at this point. He then started rubbing his cock on my bum cheeks and I reminded him that I wasn’t up for anal. He said ok but he then grabbed my legs so I couldn’t move, and forced his cock into me. It really hurt as I wasn’t ready for that. I cried out in pain and I tried to get off him, but he panicked as I got off of him, so he grabbed me around my torso, pinning my arms to my side. He just kept saying he was sorry and that he didn’t want to hurt me. He kept asking if I was ok, I couldn’t speak at first as I was shocked. Scared really. I said that I had better go but he held me tighter. Kept saying sorry and said he would give me an orgasm to make up for it. The moment had well and truly passed and I wasn’t horny anymore. But I was scared that if I didn’t carry on he might have hurt me. He was a strong man and could easily overpower me. (Which in the right setting would have been quite hot) I laid down on the bed and just stared at the ceiling and let him touch my cock. He did make it hard and asked me if I could cum on his chest. Once I did he then grabbed me again and pulled me close to him so I was then sticky with my cum. He let me get changed and did let me leave afterwards. He said we would have to do it again sometime. I agreed but only because I was frightened he wouldn’t let me go if I told him what I really thought. I actually cried after that, I never cried but I felt so violated and ashamed.

 

Worst I ever had is friends grabbing my ass and trying to flirt with me while I’m in a relationship or just not interested usually I respond violently to make sure people don’t do it again always some idiot that will but at least not as often

 

Buy a gun I don’t do hook ups but even then I own several
1911 colt
glock 40 cal
Shotgun slam fire
Winchester wild cat
Ruger
Ext

got shoulder and armpit holsters too concealer carry with those I in no way fuck around that one it movie scene where the gay couple get beat up and eaten is not happening to me you want to attack me or do some shit you can enjoy that hole in your head and lead in your death bed if your really lucky I’ll just turn your knee caps into hamburger with a slug from my shotgun