So I've been talking to this guy for a couple months now (oh yea by the way this is a long distance thing) and he says that he loves me. Sometimes I believe him but not as often as I dont. Like he's constantly asking for nude pictures and videos to the point where it seems that thats all he is interested in. This is my first time being in love.... I think he's getting bored. So I guess my question is am I just being paranoid or should I really suspect something? and also were you this....insecure the first time you were in love? oh and if it matters i'm 15 and hes 17
When I was a teen, I was definitely just as horny as this fellow you've been talking to, lol. But I don't remember ever pestering a girl for nude pictures or anything like that. Do you guys see each other at least occasionally? I've been in the long distance thing myself so I know it can be challenging. My best friend always tells me to keep my mind and door open whenever I fall in love with someone who is either in another country or is taken. Which really IS a sensible advice though, eh? But I don't necessarily think your concern comes from your being insecure, per se. On the one hand, it's totally understandable if you develop doubts about him because, by pestering you for nude pics and vids, he DOES come across as being only interested in the sex aspect. BUT on the other hand, what teen ISN'T interested in sex? So you've got these two things that you need to take into consideration when talking to him. I guess everyone feels insecure at one point or another. I don't know if I ever felt jealous when my partner was talking to other guys... I don't recall ever feeling that sort of jealousy toward someone specific. But I think that comes from my having many female friends myself, and I don't want my partner to feel insecure just because I hang out with other girls a lot. As for my own insecurity issue, it was more out of my being overprotective of her when she was really active in sports than anything else, and that, while the intentions were good(like, I didn't want her to get hurt), wasn't always helping our relationship. Thankfully she understood that I meant well, and also I eventually learned not to be too excessively protective of her. All the best!
