A kick in the stomach??

So heres the inside


I Meet him at work, we exchange numbers, hung out, N eventually fell in love.
No One in my family was happy considering i was still in school and planing on goin to college to become a chemist.
N he had no future plans and was really strugling bcuz of a drug felony.
Eventually we broke up bcuz of my parents issues, we never lost touch but eventually started datin other ppl, For the last months ive been single and still seeing him again like before....even though he has a gf (i know its a horrible thing to do)


The Day after Thankgiving, he was setenced by court To Rehab for 2years,
Before he left he told me he could never ask me to wait for him bcuz i had helped him cheat for the last few months he doesnt believe i could stay faithful. but he did ask if i would write him



So yesterday i wrote him, about school my new job and the snow thru out the letter everything was fine but before i finished i wrote

"I hope you have a good Christmas and a great birthday bcuz this is the last letter i will ever write you."
Idk I dont think i can emotionally handle writting to him in rehab.
I guess i realized that even though i love this guy, he doesnt trust me, and i dont want to write to him for 2 years hoping that when hes out we will get back together. Plus he never ended things with his current gf.

Now i dont want you guys to think that im leavin just bcuz hes in rehab.
I waiting for him the 1st rehab he ever went to and even time he served in jail.



So heres my question Im a going a bad thing? i mean ive talked to a friend and she sayd its kicking him when hes down. Idk Should i not send it till later in the year?

 

I would send it...
P.S- Nothing ever good comes outa cheating...

 

Sounds like you are making the right decision to me.

However, he could probably use a friend, and I think as long as the writing was stated as platonic and he didn't try writing you romantically, writing wouldn't be a problem.

 

i know nothing good comes from cheating, ive never helpped anyone cheat, cuz i always felt bad, but when it happened with him i felt we never really should of broken up.
Idk i guess im just justifing it

 

@ duck, i want to be there for him as a friend, but idk part of me believes that if me, the person who was always there no matter what..
Decided to finally leave it might make him realize he needs to get his life in order

 

I was not dissen you at all,just learn and move on.

 

At a glance, it seems like your both in rehab right now. This dude has another girl and throws you a bone once in awhile, he has a drug issue and has already done jail time. I'm guessing that you may have a thing for bad boys. Your family was right to be concerned, he seems to have a bit of a grip on you. Don't you think you deserve better then an addict with a record and a girlfriend. There is nothing to feel guilty about. Don't tie yourself to someone that can't stay out of the system.

 

If you feel you should do, but if your gonna regret it then don't!

 

Hm, if you think this way, maybe it would be best just to cut ties.

 

Why don't you move on. Lots of other people out there. That felony will only make his life difficult for years to come - why make your life difficult because of his mistake?

I knew a lady who married a guy who was in prison. He was out for a few years, made her happy most of the time, but then got running with the wrong people again. Made her life hell for a few more years before he went back to the clink. Now she's got his lawyer fees, court costs, fines, etc to deal with the rest of her life. She makes about 15,000 a year. Not much fun to have bills and a dead beat.

Don't get me wrong, I smoke pot all the time and I promote it's use. But some of us are programmed to be slugs and others are programmed to make a decent life - just like others are programmed to be rich and famous. It's life. Choose wisely.

 

you can do better move on.. Plz. as much as you think your in his life, Your actually are just another distraction.. He cant even decide what he has to do for himeself.
I think its cool you want to be there as a freind but in all honesty he dont know what freindship is intill hes lost it completly, Even then I dont think hes going to be to effected by it...
Man wants to put his dick in anything but. because you feel something special its worth hanging on to.?
If hed ever felt anything special there would be no other but you. And the drugs would be his other mistress. And only drugs would you have to worry about him cheating on you with...