I've got a bit of a problem to do with a budding relationship. The guy I'm sort of seeing has been chasing after me for about two years, I've become interested in the last couple of months after spending more time with him and getting to know him better. He's friends with my best friend which is how I met him,they used to date about eight years ago but are on good terms now. My friend said she had no problem with us dating and I don't think she has feelings for him at all anymore but she's also told me some stories from his past that make me wary about pursuing him. The biggest thing is committment issues, and there are a few other odds and ends. We seem to have a really great connection but there are always those cautionary tales in the back of my head sort of keeping me distanced a bit from him. I know my friend has known him for much longer than me but as I get to know him more I can't really picture all of what she says to be true. Is there hope for our situation or should I try finding someone who I know less about?
I think that maybe you should go for it... you should take into consideration how he acts arounds you, not how he acted around your friend eight years ago. Honestly, your friend is okay with it, so why not try it out...
You are "sort of" seeing him and he's been "chasing" you for 2 years.......and you are worried about his commitment issues??? Do you mean commitment issues or fidelity issues, cos if chasing for two years isnt commitment......... And really, if you didnt go gaga over this guy in the first couple of months is it really ever going to be worth it?
I understand what you mean vanilla gorilla but the reason I'm not being committal to this is I'm trying to protect myself from a broken heart. The issue before was commitment but my friend's boyfriend has made some comments about how he could see this guy having a wandering eye if we got serious as they are friends as well, upon reading what I'm writing though it seems like a whole bunch of drama and maybe I just need to get past other people's opinions and trust my instincts.
Well, could it be that the reason why this guy doesn't have a good reputation in the commitment department is because he's been wanting YOU the whole time even when he was in other relationships in the past? Vanilla's got a point. If that were the case, then this guy is pretty damned devoted.
Sounds like you already are. The wandering eye comment does suggest its more about fidelity issues than commitment. And the wandering eye is only something you can gauge, we cant on a net messageboard. Every guy has a wanndering eye now and then, but if its like every second girl with him....well then....
