Meeting women who like anal

Discussion in 'Oral Sex' started by publicjohnson, Oct 21, 2010.

  1. publicjohnson

    publicjohnson Guest

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    Hey everyone,
    long time lurker in this forum, first time poster. I'm somewhere between a fan and obsessed with anal - sex, fingering, rimming, stretching. I've had the occasional hookup or fuck buddy who'd let me fuck them anally, but never anyone genuinely into it and the relationships I've had have been worse. Most of the time I get looked at like I'm weird; sometimes they say it's gross. The best was a girl who really loved me and let me try, but absolutely-fucking-hated-it.

    My question then is how do I meet women who do honestly enjoy it? Is there a secret handshake? A scarf tied to certain bar's (back)doors? lol. It's a hard subject to broach when you're just getting to know someone, but by the time you can "feel her out" on the subject, there's probably some attachment and hurt feelings if you break it off. I don't want to hurt anyone, but liking anal is damn important to me in a relationship.

    Sooo... that's a rambling confusing lengthy first post. Any thoughts?
     
  2. Yazzz

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    You may not be able to broach the subject of anal right away in the beginning of a relationship but I do think within the first few times of seeing someone that it's relatively easy to see whether they are a freak or adventurous in bed, etc...

    Once you know they are then it's just a matter of the patience and her willing to let you try. You have to be extremely careful to minimize the downsides to it until the girl becomes used to it and is having fun/cumming/etc.... then you can afford to be a bit reckless or more aggressive with it.

    Also if you have an above average dick it makes it 5 times as hard to accomplish this. I occasionally hear buddies brag about fucking a girl in the ass on a one night stand with no preparation or anything and I think it's hilarious because they don't get that they're telling the whole group of guys that they have a small dick cause there's no way some chick just took it in the ass on a whim unless he had a small dick or she just gets fucked in the ass that often...
     
  3. Sam_Stoned

    Sam_Stoned Senior Member

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    Chicks who drive buicks love anal. You can bring it up right away.
     
  4. braininavat2

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    I almost think you will need to find someone on a fetish type site to be happy with the degree you are talking about. I had an ex who would pretty much let me any time but even then I don't think she actually liked it as much as she liked to please.
     
  5. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    you should get into porn. every girl you'll meet will be into anal.

    also, you'll get to cum on their faces.
     
  6. Hugh Janus

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    You need to work on your technique. If you make a big deal of it and she is new to it she will freak, but if you just incorporate into what you are doing and make it pleasurable and painless you have a good chance. According to the stats 40% of American women have had anal sex. Just don't go too hard too fast, and if she refuses be a little persistent, and then decide if it is a deal breaker after you have given it a few tries and discussed it. Be honest, but don't try to force her, as after a while she will resent it, and you will have to walk away. Also realize that some women enjoy it, and some just don't, and never will. I'm usually pretty up front about it, and bring it up early when sex is discussed initially. If I get a hostile reaction I walk.
     
  7. revvdup

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    the anal detecting radar devices are on sale at radioshack
     
  8. dandanuk

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    well my ex wasnt a fan of it BUT she had the best ass id ever seen like J-lo and she loved swallowing so i figured that 1 out of 2 wasnt bad!!
     
  9. daddy4585

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    i feel you on this ,maybe we will get lucky and find them here
     
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    I think your'e trying too hard. My suggestion is that you date girls that you like and are attracted to. Nature will take its course.
     
  11. Azz

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    Having just got out of a long term relationship (7 years) with someone who was not really into it, and now having a relationship with a man who loves it as much as me, I would say I could not go back to love without anal.. I suspect it would be easier for a woman to broach the subject with men, but I have wondered about your dilema before. It would just have to be something you be open about.. but not too open.. See, even tho I love to have my arse fucked I wouldn't dare admit it in the first few weeks of seeing someone.. Difficult.. Good luck is all I can offer..
     
  12. crazyMax28

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    You actually don't looking for women who want anal, I would rather said: women who is free to experiment. Look at get sex fast guide for some ideas where you can find women, who are probably ready to experiment.
    I think that any woman will accept anal sex if you have right approach, and approach is to make her want it! Be gentle, make her horny, just touch anus but not put fingers inside, touch it when make love, be sure that is lubricated...mostly women in such situations will wish one finger inside at least, if they feel good, they would ask for more.
     
  13. The Backdoor Man

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    This is a no-brainer. The best place to meet anal whores is at the bar. Trust me on this one, guys.
     
  14. Hugh Janus

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    It is all psychological. You tell them you are going to do it, and that puts the thought in their head. 'You have a nice butt. I want to f__k it' works. Repeat. A couple of weeks later, and after repeated anal play during normal sex, the time has come. If they refuse, start backing out of the relationship. They are entitled to say 'no', and you are entitled to vote with your feet. A 50% success rate is about normal.

    The thing to remember is that if they are 'giving in', or hesitating, as soon as they feel comfortable in the relationship they will start rationing sex, and anal will be the first thing off the list. Closely followed by dwarf clown porn and golden showers. Pay attention to the signs.
     
  15. iluvpleasure

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    I disagree completely, On a couple one night stands I have had, I have just came out and said you can put it in my ass if you want. Grant it the guys both time were like "really are you sure". If you find someone who really loves it you will know it. Other then that they will probably only do to it try to keep ahold of you.
     
  16. Just_a_woman

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    Perhaps the problem is how you do it. Start with oral. Progress to licking her ass, rimming, sticking your tongue into her ass. Fucking her ass with your tongue. Some fingerings with one finger and lots of lube. Then two fingers. Small dildo... and so it goes.

    Important: get her always very hot before starting to play with her ass: give her oral, edge her, finger her pussy simultaneously, lube on, don't make her cum. You want her pussy needy, her clit swollen, begging for your touch. So, you move to her ass, but keep giving attention to her clit, edging, never letting her cum.

    Just thinking of it now, I'm soaking wet in my pussy, very excited and willing to give my ass.

    If I were a man, I wouldn't ask for anal. I'd do the gradual building up I've described, so, if she didn't want it, she'd have plenty of time to let me know and stop. Never force. Never. But you can introduce things slowly, in the most pleasant way possible, so that the person has the possibility to feel how good it is, before saying no.

    Lots of women say no, because we always expect men to be brutes, and inept in bed. So, they give a preemptive no.
     
  17. Hatless Squirtgun

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    You sir, are hilarious.:2thumbsup:
     

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