Ejaculate/Cum too fast?

I know this thread is so old it's probably irrelivant (sp?) by now, but wtf is this going to help?? You basically tell him not to worry, and THEN you say that a man can not get a woman off if he cums too quick. Surely you can find better ways to 'help' hahaa

 

I'm basically just letting the guy know he's not alone, there are many guys out there that don't last very long during sex. I don't know how to fix it, but I wish I did. Condoms, numbing creams... none of that stuff works. It doesn't take the average guy too long to cum, but for the average woman it takes atleast 10-15 minutes, throw in some foreplay and that time might be less. So if you're a guy that can't go very long during sex, you better find other ways to please the person your with.

 

My problem is just the opposite. I stay on the brink for 45 mins to close to 2 hours ... and by the time im ready, my wife is past sore.

The grass is always greener

 

I'd say after you cum do some other things with her until you are horny again then go back to fucking her.

 

well this may be really old but here is a little heads up on this one, it may help may not, but what i like to do is go down on her and get her to orgasm and shake, and when she is in that mode then I like to keep going till she really can not take it anymore then enter into her, then ill try and fuck her slow then hard then slow and right when I feel that im about to bust a nut, I pull out and go back down on her and get her off again and while im down there I tend to think of like a video game or a show and then when I know that the nut is gone ill go back in here, if it happens to come back I simply pull out for a min and arouse her but not get her off and right before she is about to get off I go back in her and fuck the hell outta her and simply think of different things, and one thing I learned is dont get all hot and heavy and stuff that always tends to get a guy off, control your breathing and just take it easy. And biggest thing is, never screw in the same position for too long, mix it up and guarentee you that she will be satisfied for the night and it might just give you a couple of good points.

I used to have that problem where I would cum really fast, but then a friend of mine who is a porn star came home after a hustler shoot and I asked her about it and she had her manager with her and he gave me some good advice, till this day its never failed me and I went from about 2 mins to a normal 45 mins, and quickies last for about 15 mins cause that way you keep building your endurance.

 

Seemingly no one here has asked what I think is the obvious question: What qualifies as premature ejaculation? Cumming before she does?

Granted, if we're talking about 30 seconds, there is DEFINATELY an issue. But if we're talking about 10 or 20 minutes ... well, come ON! At what point do we have to drop the "premature ejaculator" label and maybe start talking about HER delayed orgasm?

It seems a little unfair that we just slap the label up there like, "he can't control himself," when in many cases, what needs to be looked at and worked on is upping HER response time - and that's a SHARED responsibility.

Frankly my wife is AT LEAST 50% responsible for her own orgasms during intercourse.

And before anyone starts tearing into me and labeling me, I almost ALWAYS cum after her. I can't think of a time in the last 2 years that I haven't paced myself and waited.

I guess what I'm saying here is let's be careful we're looking at the WHOLE problem and not just slapping the whole "premature ejaculation" moniker on the guys, when we could just as easily say, "yea, she's a slow-cummer."

 

Ive been flexin my muscle for years! it works ^-^

 

I actually had a big problem with this before, you know cuming very very quickly, and It was so embarrassing!
Some of you guys have probably been in the same situation as i used to be in.

You know know the feeling when you finally get the hot girl to come home with you

But even better, finally getting her into bed.

I had only just gotten started, and then suddenly I was ready to finish... And i did..
It used to take about a minute or so for me to finish and it was always so humiliating!

But I got over my problem I surfed the net and found this great manual that helped me get over the issue within like 4 days I found the manual at http://threeminutesystems.com

If anyone of you has the same problem as i did then I really recommend you check it out!

 

Double-Bag it dude...two condoms will de-sensitize you...there's also mixing in more foreplay during sex....I'd say once you get it in, 1st off, go very slow (and go as deep as you can...), do that a couple times & straight-up Pull out & go back to Sucking & Softly Nibbling on her nipple(s), finger her pussy, feel her up more, kiss her neck, etc....& then when you've calmed down, go back into her (Slow and Deep, but not all that many times, and not at lightning speed...)

 

O and btw I know that everybody thinks they are just a lost cause and so on. I mean I thought so to before. But it actually is a very common problem that like 40% of all guys suffer from in some point of their life. But Nobody wants to be within those 40% right?

 

The biggest problem most men face is that we train ourselves to get off as fast as possible when we masturbate. Maybe you don't have much privacy and are affraid of being caught, or you just want to get off really bad. You've trained yourself to cum quickly, now you have to change your outlook on orgasms.



1) Don't hold your breath...Exhale deeply with every thrust. This is the best advice I ever got.

2) Make her cum before you even think about putting it in (Oral, fingering, vibe, etc...). Girls will cum faster the second time, so you have a better chance of cumming together or giving her multiples if she's aready gotten off once already. Everyone is a winner this way. She will think of you as a caring lover, instead of a selfish pig.

3) Use lots of lube. Easier to penetrate and reduced friction will make you last longer.

4) Be gentle with yourself when you masturbate, instead of squezing hard a stroking fast. Use lotion or baby oil too.

5) Pinch the tip of your penis before putting it in. It will help desensitize you.

6) Vary your movements and technique. Practice when you masterbate. when you are getting close, try doing something else for a while to cool off a bit.

7) Grind you public bone against her clit from time to time. Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Her response will let you know if you're doing it right, and if she want you to do more.

8) Go as long as you can without clinching your sphincter. If you must clinch, that's OK. Relax again and keep going. This goes back to tip #1. If you're clinching, you're probably not breathing.

9) Read the book "Male Sexuality", or "The NEW Male Sexuality"

http://www.amazon.com/New-Male-Sexuality-Revised/dp/0553380427"]Amazon.com: The New Male Sexuality, Revised Edition (9780553380422): Bernie Zilbergeld: Books


10) If you're not using condoms, then don't stop just because you blew your load. Keep pumping and grinding. Kiss passionately. Talk dirty. Whatever gets you going. You can get hard again instsntly if you're turned on. She may notice that you went limp. She may not. But the fun doesn't have to stop.

11) Don't over-think it. Live in the moment and enjoy the experience.

 

You guys should roll when u have sex

 

.......Is it bad if I've only cum with another person once? ever? I can't do it... Why are you complaining?

 

the trick is to control your arrousal, the erection is the result of your arrousal right? Erections are easy. There is a muscle you can flex behind your scrotum that is attached to a nerve that will take your arrousal (and your erection) away easily. The trick is to masturbate and flex the muscle so you dont come, with a little practice you will see. I works and my poor wife is so sore. If you are squeezing your abs you arent doing it right. Its where your pussy would be if you had one (interesting huh?).

 

read through this thread, did the exercises and shit. Used to last like 15 minutes max, just had 45 minute sex. did the muscle thing and focused on random drawings on my walls when I thought I was getting too close. She came like 5 times and tokld me she couldnt feel her legs when we were done. Good times

 

Wouldn't there be the issue of the condom breaking? If you just kept going??? And i have the same problem that's why i came here

 

Fifteen years on and there's still no intelligent conversation about all of this. The only real way to solve this problem is through the use of medication. You may find some relief through certain anti-depressants such as Paxil (Peroxitine). Something that's recently been released in several countries outside of the United States (the no-pleasure zone), is Dapoxetine, or brand name Priligy from Johnson and Johnson - the only drug specifically designed to treat premature ejaculation. Not yet approved by the FDA in America, because why should anyone be happy? Perhaps this just might be the very thing people in this predicament need for a healthy and active life here on Earth.

Science is the key, that's the truth. Everyone who got lucky in this department, need to realize there's not much more to it than that...

Maybe it's even through medication that a true mental fix can occur, like a retraining therapy of sorts. I have a feeling though, the assholes in charge fear the extra competition. They should, because that day is coming

 

You Irish?

 

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Obviously written by a woman or single man!

 

Get yourself a good cock ring. I used to have one and it worked great, delays your orgasm. I like to have sex slow and when my girl says she's about to cum that's when I really pound her. But I have the same problem when I try to go too fast/too hard.